Invest in the groom, too

Planning your wedding is filled with difficult decisions. If you've been in the process for more than an hour, you know this by now. Choosing to invest in the groom's attire is hard, I've lived it. In today's inflated wedding market money needs to be saved somewhere, but a well-dressed groom is actually incredibly important. There are many other outdated components of the day that can be left behind without regret, and you don't need to spend a fortune. It's often more of an investment of time and care.

During my own planning process, I received the advice to invest in myself from a few people, and that validated my desire to look my best. It felt like I had permission. I think a lot of people need to feel like they have this permission to pursue some level of sartorial excellence for their wedding day. So I'm here to give that, and provide solid reasons to do so.

You'll feel like you belong

Imagine your wedding day, everything has been selected with such coordinated purpose, and every detail is perfect. The decor is ornate and your partner is gorgeous. And embedded within all of that beauty is the groom flanked by his groomsmen, who all look like children waiting to grow into their oversized clothes. It's a sad truth, grooms and groomsmen in bad attire look jarringly out of place. The sleeves of their shirts hang down to their thumbs, and the legs of their trousers pool around their ankles. It's not flattering. By spending time putting together an intentional outfit, you add to the gestalt of the wedding instead of destroying it.

You'll feel like you made your best effort

Dressing well is a visual signal of respect to your partner and guests, as well as to the commitment you are making. You don't need to upstage your bride or groom to be, but you should look like you match in terms of effort. An objection may be raised that the wedding is the bride's day, and that the attention should be on them. In my view, the attention should be placed on the immensly serious and beautiful commitment you are making to one another as equals. You should both look serious about what you're doing in a way that reflects your personalities. Putting some extra thought into what you wear on your wedding day will help you feel like you've done right by yourself, your guests, and your partner.

You'll feel confident

Remember the reason why you're getting dressed up in the first place. You are about to dedicate your life to another person. This is a courageous act of love, and you should step forward into this new way of being with confidence. Nothing should be making you feel uncomfortable, and unfortnately knowing that your clothes don't fit can make you feel small. If you invest in your wedding day attire, all that's left to think about is how excited you are about the years of marriage to come!

Your wedding is the moment that reflects the journey of your relationship up to this point, and looks forward to the life you will continue to grow together. The day will be beautiful because of what you are doing in creating this shared future, and you should feel like you're allowed to let that inspire you to look good, too.

Photo by Hannah Martin Photography, 2018.

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